Tuesday, March 07, 2006
Who shot J.R.?
I can't believe it's March 7th and we're still here in Germany.

If things had gone as planned with his Green card, we would have moved back to the states January 26th. We would already be home in New York with my family. Now here we are still. Trapped and struggling.


It's been snowing a lot lately. We sat by the open kitchen window on Sunday, watching the snow swirl aimlessly and taking in the fresh air.

We just sat there together in silence.

This photoblog is helping me get through this transitional period. It's nice to have a place to put the random pictures I take everyday. I'll have something to look back on in the future and it's a chance to share my view of the world right now with my friends. I fell behind in updating for a number of days because time slips by so quickly. It's hard to put aside the time to record it. In a blink of an eye a day passes. I want to remember every day but that's impossible.


We visited Eric's biological father Friday night.

At first it was awkward. Stretches of silences, interrogations, communication struggles and alienation. It wasn't a hallmark moment with tears and tight embraces.

But in time that dissolved. Suddenly there was laughter, sharing and a general feeling of warmth. There were some beautiful moments.

His father and Eric share some similar features..their eyes and hands..posture and a few mannerisms.

The visit went well. It was the first step in the right direction.


I was in a bit of a slump this weekend. I felt alienated, sad, estranged. Eric and I really needed to recharge. Just lay back. Take the phone of the hook, put away the laptop, and simply be together. We were both going through our own emotional rollercoasters and sought comfort in each other.

We spent a bit of time watching THIS together:

Eric had excitedly returned from dropping by a friend's house with a DVD boxset behind is back. "Guess what Peter lent us?", He proudly presented it to me.

I gazed at the box of DVDs. "Um...Season 1 and 2 of DALLAS?" I gave him a blank stare.

"You never watched Dallas!?"

"Who shot J.R.?"

"So you have seen it"

"No, I just know that was the question. It was a little before my time."

"My Mother and I watched this show together. It was back in...1979 I think, I was about 5 years old. We had a little black and white television", He said "I LOVED Dallas"

Since I had forced Eric at one point to sit through my childhood shows. ("My-so-called-life" and the "Anne of Green Gables" mini series... Cruel, I know) It was payback time.

After 3 dramatic episodes, I turned to Eric "This show is complex! How could you have understood this at age FIVE?"

"Oh I didn't know what the hell was going on. I just liked the cars and the pretty woman. I also thought J.R. Ewing was really cool"

"But he's the bad guy"

"I didn't know that!"

So If anyone has seen Dallas. I have a question. Why did everyone care who shot J.R.? He was a huge prick, one of the most evil characters I've seen on a television series. What was it about this show that captivated the entire world?

I guess I'll find out soon enough. I have to confess, Curling up on the sofa with Eric and watching a marathon of Dallas was more fun than I expected. We fell asleep together and woke up to the theme song running in the background on repeat.

Does anyone even remember Who shot J.R.?

Yeah, I need to get out more. But when you're broke..you take entertainment in any form.

These are some pictures taken last night during our walk home from the office

Someone built a snowwoman. I like that.
posted by Clarity25 at 10:58 AM |


At March 07, 2006, Anonymous Carol 

I never saw Dallas either, but I remember my parents never missed an episode. I have no idea who shot J.R. though!

I'm glad to hear that the trip with Eric's father went well:)

At March 07, 2006, Blogger Stacia 

When I still lived in Dallas I went to Russia twice. Everytime I told someone where I lived, they all replied "JR!" (and some asked me if I knew him???). Everyone knows and loves Dallas!

At March 07, 2006, Blogger JulieU. 

I LOOOOVVVVVEEEE Dallas. I once spent 8 hours knitting a baby sweater and watching my Dallas boxset. It's funny how Sue Ellen's character changed over the years.
I know who shot JR (even before watching the dvd set) but I won't tell you. You'll have to watch that for yourself. As for why we cared, well, I dunno.
I also share your love of the Anne of Green Gables mini-series. I've dreamed of visiting Prince Edward island because of it!

At March 07, 2006, Anonymous Olaf 

Hi Clarity. Every time you post achitectural pictures from your home there in Germany I am awed by the differences and the beauty of the structures.

At March 07, 2006, Anonymous Anonymous 

I've never seen a snowman with boobs before. That's an interesting sight! lol

At March 07, 2006, Anonymous autum 

i have never seen the show. but, i know my mom used to love it. i have wanted to go back and watch it someday, though. the funny thing is, i know who shot j.r. and i have never seen the show. but, i saw it on one of the vh1 pop culture shows.

i think everyone cared b/c the show was so big and they had him shot at the end of a seasona nd didn't tell people until the next season, so people talked about it all summer. (or something? that's what i remember from vh1!)

that is SO CUTE about eric liking it b/c the cars and the girls! ha! it had me cracking up! and b/c he watched it with his mom. awww.

At March 07, 2006, Anonymous fifi 

Aaargh! I watched Dynasty, which was even worse. I loved it. The same way I now love Desperate Housewives. I am a brain-rotted soap tramp.
I love the snow-woman!

At March 07, 2006, Anonymous alice 

I think the question for our generation was "Who killed Laura Palmer?" even though sadly I do know who shot JR(I wont spoil it though.)
The snow woman reminded me of the snow family my parents and grand parents made in my grandparents back yard. The woman was very busty and maraschino cherries were used in an interesting fashion.
I thought it was hysterical.(I was 7 or 8 maybe)
Sadly there hasnt been enough snow for people building..and Im in Canada!

At March 07, 2006, Anonymous GdP 

Of course I know who shot JR! That was the best cliff hanger and the longest summer ever. Do you really want to know? Next your going to say you don't know who Mr. Bill is.

At March 07, 2006, Anonymous ricky 

Ahh Dallas. Dallas was good because it was the ultimate struggle between good and evil. J.R., the conniving, man-whore would would sell out his own family for money and power and Bobby, the young Texan, idealist who wanted love, and to be true to his family name. the person who shot JR was such a big deal because everybody hated JR. So the person who shot him could have been just about annyone. Very exciting stuff. It was a let down though because you kind of wanted it to be someone more prevalent in the series, but whatver. We still had Bobby's dream sequence to come in the following years. Noone was expecting that.. Wild and crazy, I'm telling ya. :) And now I have the theme song stuck in my head. Dallas. Indeed. Now those were the years of good TV....

At March 07, 2006, Blogger Rosie 

I am also from Canada (Edmonton...supposedly one of the snowiest cities in Canada) and we got almost no snow this winter until the last few weeks. I have to say that I almost missed the cold weather. Anyway...I wanted to come on to share a short little poem-like thing that always make me smile when it's snowing...It's actually from a song written in Hebrew, but this is the translation "What snow! like little dreams falling from the sky!"

At March 07, 2006, Anonymous Tenshi 

God, I remember Dallas and Dynasty, and ... Golden Girls, and... what was that one with Delta Burke? Designing Women...

I remember being bored out of my mind by Dallas and Dynasty, but I really enjoyed the start-up songs. Golden Girls was always great and Designing Women was ...okay, I guess.

Har. I'm only 21, and I remember that crap. :)

At March 07, 2006, Blogger Crystal 

Oh I remember watching Dallas with my mom! She NEVER missed a show! My mom was so in love with Bobby. lol

I know who shot JR too. Man, that was all everyone talked about until the season started again. You could stand in line at the grocery stores and every tabloid had something about Dallas and who they thought shot JR.

At March 08, 2006, Anonymous kris 

See now I feel old because I know who shot JR and who killed Laura Palmer ;)

At March 08, 2006, Anonymous Heeland Lass 

God that's so weird, I was speaking to my friend at the weekend about Dallas, he has just bought series 5 on DVD. Weird. Anyway - being the same age as Eric I loved Dallas too. I learned the alphabet by singing the Dallas theme tune!! And when I wasn't doing the alphabet to the theme tune, I'd sing the credits, 'starring.....produced by....'that kind of thing. I loved Lucy. And I got a Dallas calander 2 yrs running! I think everyone cared about who shot JR because it was the first time there was a big cliff hanger/hyped up situation like that on tv (as far as I know). Mugs and t-shirts were brought out and everybody talked about it because it happened right at the end of the series and there was no internet or anything like that so nobody knew. I can't remember who shot him now, but I don't want to know cos I'm going to get it out again. I bet you get addicted pretty soon! Way to go Eric! xxx Oh and Clarity - your last comment meant SO much to me. Thanks a million for helping me realise I'm really genuinely not a freak! xxx

At March 08, 2006, Anonymous Amy 

Oh, Dallas. I remember Dallas and Dynasty, too. My parents (or at least my mom) would watch it. I will not spoil the JR secret. But I agree with Heeland Lass...it was such a big thing because it was this huge cliffhanger and you had to WAIT to find out! I remember going to the store with my mom that summer and all the magazines said "Who shot JR?" I was just a little younger than Eric at the time; I could NOT understand why this was such a big thing!

At March 08, 2006, Anonymous Jenn 

I've never seen it but my MIL said she loved that show, which is quite a thing for her. She NEVER watched tv and still doesn't. That's the only show she ever watched on a regular basis.

And I believe that's a snowwoman, haha. ♥

At March 09, 2006, Blogger Nightmare 

I too know who shot JR, but that doesn't really answer your question...The reason this was a big deal was because it was the FIRST time in TV history that the plot was kept secret for an entire summer. The end of the season in spring of ....I think it was 1978, had JR coming out of his office only to get shot... The writers were paid an astronomical amount of money...well for 1978, so it was like 10K each, not to say anything and to keep it a secret. The actors didn't know the answer until the week of shooting right before the new fall season, and they were on a closed set.

So that is the REAL reason that is was a big deal, it was the first cliffhanger of it's kind.

At March 09, 2006, Blogger Kathleen 

I'm old enough to have watched Dallas, but I didn't care that much about how shot J.R. as I had stopped watching by that point. I do know who killed him though and I totally would have told you, but everybody else is being good, so I won't. But I think to make the experience genuine you need to wait four months between those two epsisodes. ;-)

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