Sunday, February 26, 2006
Last night we went out dancing with some friends at the Ringlockshuppen
with 3 dance rooms (a room for current hits, for 80's and a 60's british pop room) and 2 levels. It's the biggest night club in town. It was created out of an abandoned train factory
We weren't planning on drinking, but our friends bought us drinks and insisted we kick back. It's our first time really
partying again since I returned to Germany a few weeks ago. It was a fun night.
But something happened that made me wonder....Can men and women ever be "just friends"?
Can a single man have a close friendship with a married woman? Can two single people be simply friends without it leading to a relationship? Without it leading to sexual tension or potential heartbreak
It seems like every relationship I've had with a member of the opposite sex eventually reached a crossroads. What started as friendship and an understanding all of a sudden leaded to "The talk
". Suddenly someone is getting hurt and the friendship is falling apart.
Eric is my bestfriend (for 9 years now) and now also my husband. Every other close friendship I had with any other guy has fallen away.
Is this inevitable
? Is it impossible for members of the opposite sex to be just friends? I don't mean aquaintances, I mean real
Then there is the aspect of jealousy
, Would you get jealous if your significant other formed a close friendship with a member of the opposite sex?
Sometimes I think it's better to just avoid potential problems by removing yourself from any situations that can lead to this. I find myself questioning people's motives lately.
I don't think men and woman CAN be just friends. Someone is always going to want more. I could be wrong, but from experience...that seems to be the case. It's disheartening.Can the biological urge for male and female to do what's necessary to procreate be overcome by reaching higher ground?